She is back.
There is always a noticeable shift in my husband’s demeanor when he begins seeing her again.
It starts slowly. A weeknight meeting here, a weekend away there. But in the blink of an eye the occasional early morning meet up and late night call escalate to everyday.
No seriously, everyday!
Their constant communication is shameless and uninhibited. I automatically adjust and make room for her.
But the love notes. Have you ever stumbled upon a love letter written by your love for his other love?
Leaves you sick in the stomach.
You would think he would try to conceal the written expression of their love from me, right? Sometimes he tries but, it never lasts long. I find them on restaurant napkins, sticky notes, envelopes, and business cards in his pockets.
All the X’s and O’s and talks about “protection”. I just don’t get it. Protection, seriously?
I understand he will never leave her, she was in his life long before me.
They met in grade school but, didn’t really start a relationship until his older brother saw their undeniable chemistry. Turns out there was someone else he liked more but, his brother insisted they give it a try first.
I have seen pictures of them together in various stages of his life. Always hand in hand.
So, I knew about her, about this part of him but, honestly I didn’t quite understand the amount of time she required of him year ’round. I figured, surely it will change for me?
Aww, I was so cute.
She is relentless, she needs something from him all of the time.
And when they are not together or talking… she sends film of herself, to remind him that she demands his constant care and attention. She knows what she is doing. He will watch her in action over and over, some parts in slow motion, studying every position.
She has no shame.
Trust me when I say, she has my attention too. I would be a fool to ignore her. She clearly isn’t going anywhere, I know he loves her. And let me tell you, she isn’t the easiest to love sometimes.
I often wonder…
- How do I support their relationship while fostering ours?
- How do I prepare the rest of the family for her demanding personality?
- Why is he so loyal to her when she has turned her back on him before?
- How do I avoid becoming a Sister Wife?
The fact is we work at it daily because it hasn’t always been smooth sailing for the three of us. I mean, who expects to accept another into their marriage? I guess a Sister Wife does, but I was ill-prepared.
Honestly, I love her too and as long as she knows “her place” we will be fine. Of course, she probably says the same thing about me. 🙂
Football season is here and even though it is tough for all of us, we wouldn’t have it any other way!